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I was informed that I am indeed a mean man. It seems I do have female readers here, from time to time, some I didn't know about. Something about something about mistreating or enjoying the suffering of women. So, rather than respond privately, I thought I would do it here in hopes she might respond here, where I prefer these things to be settled.

First, a woman who isn't mine should have no expectation from me for intimate kindness. Especially one I was neither chasing nor covertly or overtly attending or wooing. Since, of course, it is illegal and immoral to marry one's kin, a woman will become my blood by bleeding for me. Just, setting that straight. At which time I will give concessions, offer certain kindnesses, turn a blind eye to some of her faults, and bleed for her. Until such an arrangement is assigned, any woman is a stranger in the war of the sexes and in the battles of love. I feel no more sympathy for a fallen opponent in love than I do for a fallen enemy soldier. Period.

Well, actually, that about sums it up. Mostly. Though I should add, even if I have taken a woman as mine I will not completely or always shield her, specifically from the truth, from reality. I need a partner, and a woman partner can be allowed to be no more blind than a warrior partner. Now, with a woman, getting her up to speed may take longer (and never be fully successful), but that will go forward. And I might feel the need to soften the edges, which I have done to within my capacity. But she will have to understand the way life and death work. Further, we aren't always going to agree. To be honest, for women, biologically, it doesn't matter who the victor is. Her body simply wants to have it's needs and wants met. That is completely contrary to men, and how we think, and how our bodies work. Still, we can, and probably have to get on enough similar pages, if the thing is to work.

I guess I am saying life isn't kind, nor can I always be, nor should I be at times. But I will do, for my woman, what I can to bring her up to the speed of real life as gently as possible in the time allotted.

If you want to know cruel... I had a friend who courted a woman, a woman who really had quit 'all that'. He chased her for two years. Then he dated her for another three. Then he just ended it. He admitted he had no reason to end the relationship. She was a good woman. He was simply done. I... don't chase what I don't intend to catch and keep, not that I always catch and obviously don't always keep. But there were real reasons for not keeping, and women know they can't always be caught. That's just life. Still, what he did was truly cruel, if not unusual. Especially in this age where women claim equality and then wonder why that doesn't work. So, I don't even mind that so much. My guess, he realized how... dangerous it is to marry a women these days, he just never discussed that part of it. Men hate admitting that we are up against an impossible situation, more so in the secular world. Then again, even many churches are quite secular these days.

Now, if you have more to say on the matter, say it here. I think you can do it anonymously. Bleh...

Or... put into very few words... yeah, sure, I'm an S.O.B. But if I am your S.O.B., know which side of that to be on and you will enjoy sunshine and roses all the live long day. If you get bored with that, I'm always up for digging out some of the thorns or dressing those sunburns too. HrumpH!