Some work, questions, and answers.

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Before I even really woke I reset the dishes.  Not only that, I dried and put about half of them up.  Then set the towels in the dryer to a fluff tumble.  Hmm, brots are thawed, but I might wait on those until I get a load of quinoa going.  Not much, but when work kicks off early it's usually a good sign.

I was recently approached, in a more general way, regarding love.  A young man who is at a good age for finding love.  He seems healthy, able, interested, and willing.  I put something general out, received a reply, then realized a fundamental had not been touched upon.  Does he have faith?  Without that, the chances of a life pairing are slim.  At best, I figure, for the secular set, twelve to twenty.  Without both having a belief in a set of objective truths, everything is subjective, and the subjective is not enduring.

I let him know that, if he doesn't have faith, I don't even suggest looking for a wife.  Even if he wants children, that is easier to deal with outside of marriage.  Sex is cheaper in other venues.  Whatever he is looking for can be found outside of marriage, for far less risk and cost.  None of it is... superior to marriage.  But without objective beliefs, marriage in any case is too much for those who can't abide truths beyond their wants, and in these times where marriage has become a terrible burden on men it is not to be entered without some hope of longevity, even permanency.

There is more, but start from the start.  No, I don't recommend someone find God to find a woman.  I don't think it works like that.  If you can see that God holds the keys to the kingdom, perhaps that might get you there.  But faith is not, really, derived from the hope of physical love, nor the desire for money or any other fleshly thing.  You are called or you are not.  Perhaps just advising as I did will get him to look.  But being European, almost alone as a Christian should he go that way, I'm not sure it would work anyway.

Complicated.  Yes.  True?  I think so.  Then, once you get past all that, assuming you make it and find a woman who is a Christian as well?  Even that isn't the ending point.  That is just the beginning.  Even a Christian woman is a woman, and has needs and wants that only a strong man will fill.  They aren't what she says, not always.  Her words are good guides, I'll just say that.  Look to tradition to know her real needs, which is "why" marriage, and family.  See where she is going in life, her part of life, and your life together, to see where and how to help her.  And listen, or... yeah... as much as you can.  Or at least let her feel as if you listened.  :p

I sent him a link to this place.  I don't think he will get it.  I just... I'm not sure I have more to say, specifically.  Through these pages I have spilled my thoughts, used music to express, and put as much of the world together as I can.  What caught his attention was something I wrote, as a comment, long ago.  Something about sigmas making our own world.  I still believe that is true.  And I still do so, more than some realize until you see me change hearts and minds of even dead-eyed bureaucrats, while calling them just that.  And, I live.  Even though, we all know, that... isn't really quite possible.  God has his part, I have mine.  And so it is.

Oh, right... On to a bit of gaming.  Then in a bit, laundry or dishes, then the other.  And, finally, if I finish enough of those, a shower and some of the living room work.  Maybe.  Later.