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Reading at one of Vox's blogs I chuckled big and large about one of the notions he presented. It was something on my mind the other day as well. Almost posted about it then but things are slipping lately. Something about how if one man gets handy with a lady it is encouraged, supported, rewarded, whereas another man would get thrown troubled for his foolish deeds. Well, and the fact that "No" only means "No" for some guys. For others it's, well, not the or an issue.
Now, he brought up a couple of politicians. The problem with the politician he brought up as alpha was the obstruction. A true alpha wouldn't need to hide behind layers of money, political muscle, and probably other types of muscle. That's for when things go wrong. Not that alphas are perfect, they litter jail cells and psych wards. Just that they aren't in there for that. There is a point between when a lion is a lion and when he becomes a jackal. Both with women and the world. Someone who has to hide behind skirts and the rest isn't an alpha. That's all I'm saying.
The other thing is, unlike popular myth, being handy with the ladies is fine. But she really has to be on board. It's not every gal that is available, though you would be surprised how many women are in play. Most let you know they are in play or just plain try to sneak up and on you, if you have certain traits. Being that I could have 30 year old kids, with me being mid 40's, with the mothers being mothers of my class mates and a teacher or two should explain some of that. Got to admit, I still don't, and probably never will, understand. But then I don't understand gravity completely, the sun fully, matter to a greater extent, or women in general. I don't need to understand. Biologically to intellectually, I am an engineer. Just make it work then leave it alone, if it's vital.
And yet, the reason I haven't found a woman is because I tried to make changes. I'm locked up. Sex is easy, could be having that now, tomorrow, next week. That's not what I want, or not that alone. I never did but I was on that track. It's sort of like reading Cliff Notes, or a solid review of something, compared with the actual product. You know how it turns out and have a decent idea about who is involved and why, but the details weren't there. I was lead to a shortcut that shortcutted the natural process. Trying to figure the way back... Yeah, tricky. You can't undo, unlive, unsee, unremember, it doesn't work. You have to move on, but how far?
I'm not really an alpha, I just played the part like a pro when certain variables came due. I saw the signs, felt which way the wind was blowing, approached on normal vectors, did the deed, and never knew why... or even in the moment cared. Automated. Just like fighting. Eventually, if you are an honest type, or earnestly want to be, you have to come around to realizing that isn't working. I had some plugs to pull, some choices to make, and some notions to settle. Now that most of it is done, I merely need... something else.
Yea, women on the mind. A lot lately. It isn't BMan, it wasn't the last haiku, dunno. Either I will find a woman or the urges will pass. The king is dead, long live the king, baby.
It was a perfectly natural process. What it wasn't is the civilized version of it that supports said civilization.
ReplyDeleteBut in the pre-civilization state of being, seed sprayed far and wide by the dominant members was the norm.
Natural, true. And I don't even think unGodly, not completely. God did allow for multiple wives. The early Christian Church allowed for only one wife but multiple women. Probably a misnomer based on fundamentalism regarding what Christ said about one man, one woman. Of course, that wasn't at all supportable in any way, socio-economically, legally, morally, logically, theologically, so it got dropped. I think in a larger, more stable nation, society, it is not workable though too. My guess is in the wilds it makes perfect sense. The rich will lay claim to most women leaving none for poor and lower level men. While marriage is neither necessary, an impediment for a mate, nor even sought for by some ranking of males in certain economic classes... too expensive... it would still be out of our hands.
ReplyDeleteSimply put, a wife is very expensive. If she works at some low to mid-level job, about the max a "college-educated" woman can do, she spends as much or more money to work as she makes, and paying off her "education" loan, plus then no longer takes care of the house and children. At one time, when companies hired for life, that made some sense, as eventually the wife would bring more in than out. Not the case these days. Female employment has become the equivalent of the "company store". The only way to starve that is to force closed borders, which won't happen since that would require an end to feminism. It's a huge circle jerk. Then again, it always has been. Big companies aren't multicultural and liberal for idealism, but for a bottom line. And yes, they will sell the soul of their nation and people to get it. It's why Vlad did what he did, against their notions, and is labeled as he is though too. Not new.
Women in the workforce have priced their daughters out of the marriage market by lowering wages generally and pushing men out of opportunities. It worked well for big business (more and cheaper labor), and government (broke up the family). At one time it didn't matter, just made it easier to get in, finish, and leave.