A nation of bachelors?

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Bachelors?  One of my reads suggests, through her sources, that 70% of men, aged 20-34 are single.  More than single, they are not getting into home ownership or doing other things that typically suggest maturity.  I'll accept those numbers, at a glance.

She suggests, or seems to suggest, that the roots of this are in the feminized legal issues regarding marriage.  And, with courts nearly automatically giving custody of children, and half of all assets or more, and allowing divorce at a whim, there is that.  I don't think that, though, is the half of it.  Men are, naturally, well beyond risk averse.  Born bold beyond the point of stupid, so that while fewer are born, we die in larger numbers at every single equal age group compared with women.  Whether riding motorcycles, climbing, hiking in country where predators exist, or any number of various activities, we go where women truly fear to tread.  We grow much better for it, but die for it.  So, it isn't just that.

I would guess the bulk of the problem with marriage, what I would call the two-thirds part, is two-fold.  The first part has been happening since women joined the employment market in numbers large enough to displace men and cheapen the market.  A real decline in bring home pay has made the idea of marriage untenable.  As risk averse as men are, on some things, there is a natural limit.  Can't afford minimal entertainment, or even to feed oneself?  Why in the world would he add a women to the mix?  Even if she works, how long will that last once she is pregnant?  No matter what she says, will she really go back to work after a child is born?  Yeah...  No.

The other part is the social marginalization of men, manly things, and our doings.  I am sure, initially, it was a curios advertising thing.  Knowing men, for the most part, work and steadily and at certain times of the day, advertisers decided to feed the miserable parts of being a woman, wife, and homekeeper.  Attacking men in passive-aggressive ways.  That quirk grew until it invaded every aspect of the media.  It has become a modern truth that men are dogs, unworthy of all the hard work and efforts and good will of women to keep us happy, well fed, tend "our children", and such.  Dogs!  They say.  And women have that on the front of their minds when they meet men.  Not equal, less, they tell us.

I have no problems with this, because the mind of a woman is easy enough for me to shake.  Much as a deer, looking disdainfully at a lion.  From a distance that works.  Up close, and I see their fear.  The truth absolutely self-evident.  For me, it is not just physical.  I can speak their hidden language, and dismiss it at a glance.  I can shatter their false beliefs, and care nothing for the feelings it hurts.  And to great acclaim.  Women love a man who has no fear of their neurosis and can set it aside without a thought.  Most men can't.  Most men have surrendered to the advertising and propaganda blitz.  They feel, and show it, their guilt just for being men... or simply aren't ever aware of what they are facing.  Either that or they have grown purely feral.  Attacking the woman, or just hating her back.  Feeding the misbegotten cycle.  Many who read here just don't believe until...

Those two, along with the courts and laws, are why men are not marrying.  My only questions are; can that be changed in the current system, without having to destroy it and start from scratch?; how long will it take to begin changing the system, or breaking it down completely, before things can be restarted?; and what are the costs?  Personally, as this generation is being passed over for even gaining access to employment, this generation of women will never have a chance at marriage... not most of them.  Even if these particular men go on to marry, at some point, it will be with next gen women, fertile women, who will be sought.  This generation of women will not be a party to a family life.  By the time, if it happens, men decide to marry, they will not marry older women.  Men are not attracted to women who have become old flowers.  Fresh or nothing, even for me.

The complete disaster that these last generations have become is only going to get worse until all is lost or the war on men is surrendered.  An unconditional surrender or the end.  Men will only fight a war if they have a sane chance, sane leadership, and a fair enough shake.  That is not the case.  Further, at this point, men will desert the field and leave it to rot, and have found that it isn't as difficult as all that.  Men will win if it means everybody loses.  Why?  Because we can.  Time to lady up, women.  Oh, it'll hurt.  But it will beat hitting bottom.  Since our politicians ignore us, you best start voting with that fading flower, and those dollars you spend, or you will be out in the cold, as will your daughters (if you are lucky enough) and granddaughters, and the rest.  Wanna bet?

I am in a place where I have some defenses and comforts and can choose.  And, if possible, might take a wife.  Up to her, soon enough.  Most men don't have my position, and won't take an impossible risk.  Should be interesting to see how things turn as women realize that to have what they have means to be alone in it.  I think they are figuring it out.  Just not fast, or well, enough.  Nor do most of them know that voting for more feminism is not the way.  At this point, I don't think a single, working, never-wed or divorced and likely to mostly be single, woman, aged 30, even realizes she is a feminist.  I don't care if she is a Republican, Democrat, doesn't vote, or what.  She is a feminist.  More so if her "career" is her focus.  This is going to be a rough ride for most... until it collapses, or by the grace of God, is reset.