It isn't husbands who are missing.

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I noticed over at Dr. Helen's the other day, a post asking where all the husbands have gone.  I laughed immediately.  Oh, I know she believes she is an ally, and I know she was taking the lede from another article or post.  So this isn't, mostly, about her article.

The problem with even the idea that men are not available for marriage is a misconception at best.  For one thing, marriage isn't what it has generally been considered, as an institution.  Simply, any security once offered to men through matrimony is gone.  Beside not having any surety of the old form of marriage, there are additional risks involved.  She notes this, of course.  I simply believe it needs to be pointed out much more clearly.  There is no such thing as marriage at this point, not for men, certainly not traditional or faith-based.  It's all a city hall contract, one that is not good for men.

However, the biggest thing is this, it isn't husbands who are missing, it is wives.  How many women can even cook a good meal?  How many women can bake a pie?  How many women even consider doing domestic chores?  Seriously, very few women even consider that.  Further, most wish to have one or two children, at most, if you can coax them into even that!  There are no wives.  Lots of brides-to-be, wannabe wives, but nothing with substance.  Too many of them are so busy working, and destroying the value of employment ensuring they can't be afforded as a stay at home wife and mother, to do the things that are needed for a family.

It isn't men, at all, who are missing from the equation.  Men have simply begun to understand that it isn't in our interests to marry a typically already neurotic woman and hope she won't get bored (too bored, life does get boring), or want to find herself (she will, but will she destroy a family for it), or anything else.  Women are not known for constancy.  Freeing them has been much akin to letting a turkey go free, on Thanksgiving Day, from an ten story building.  Heck, most women can't believe that their freedom has been more destructive to this nation than almost anything else.  Men are here, always have been, always will be.

She suggests that it is just as easy to get sex outside of marriage, actually easier these days, than to get it inside of marriage.  But that isn't it.  Sure, easy sex sounds good, but sure sex is better.  Hunting new dame game every few days is about as fun as picking one's nose.  More, while men might well enjoy having more than one woman, the truth is most men seek an anchor.  A single woman to be involved with.  Even in the secular notions of society, having one main woman is... part of what society is built upon.  It's not about the sex, or how easy that is outside of marriage, it's about not having the availability of a real wife or the security in which to build a family.

It is not going to get better.  The laws created that allow for these things are doing exactly what they are meant to do, break down the family to increase dependence upon the government and weaken other natural bonds that create resistance to government.  Either the government fails, an even worse government (global) replaces it, or the people decide they won't be ruled into slavery.  It has been a slow but sure progress into decline, but it has been engineered, orchestrated.  That the effects are now being felt, at least in these new ways, is just part of the growing pains of a death loving direction.  It's a warning.  If women wanted to marry, their are things they could do.  But they won't.  They like what they have more than marriage.  Or, at this point, perhaps don't even see that they are the problem, or the solutions.