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When talking to old friends, should I happen to ask about their sister(s), getting told that they are happy, and married, and with a pained look on their face or in their voice... When it happens often enough, I started getting a bit peeved about it. I was merely asking after their affairs, not looking for their hand in marriage after all. It is not even as if marriage, dating, and the particular friend's sister were even being discussed in anything like close proximity. And, yes, it hurt my feelings a bit. I have been chewing on that this morning for some reason.
Then it hit me. Their reactions suggest two things. One, that they see me as a real contender for their sister's attentions. They must see me as what they would consider attractive to women. The strong scent of fear I get from them is sometimes intense, like a bad fear fart, it fills the room. Next, they must see me as some kind of heart breaker, home-wrecker, or bad apple to be involved with women or they don't think much of their sister(s). Maybe brothers are simply protective of their sisters though too. This has happened some number of times, through time, and most recently again. What is that? Doom is in the area, hide you women folk! Heh. Still bothers me, but at least there is a minor compliment in there. Never mind, if health holds, I'll still get someone's sister. Just you wait and see. Then they'll be sorry! hahaha
It is easy to see why that is galling. I still can't make heads or tales of it though, not fully. Are these not really my friends? Am I that bad of an apple, to men who know me? Perhaps they don't like their sisters? Still mulling while I wake up. Galled and all.
"I'll still get someone's sister"
ReplyDeleteThats the point, just don't go after your friends sisters single or not.
It changes the dynamic of a true friendship if not destroys it altogether with such a scenario you imply.
Quit the pondering and move on to what most of us do, seek a strangers sister for courtship.
Well, that wasn't the point. I haven't been going after their sister(s), at all. A few of them I liked, but... not that much. It was just the intensity of the response. I guess I don't understand. It was like me even asking put them at risk of losing their sister to me somehow.
ReplyDeleteI suppose, not having a sister for a long period of time, or being the baby, I would have always thought it would be cool if one of my friends was dating my sister. Someone I knew to be good, on the up and up. I didn't know about any objections that way. But, and again, that wasn't my intent.