Oh, about men and bitterness.

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I was reading Vox's post about modern women, grumpy men, and such. I thought about it a bit and then... it started. At first it was low and muffled. It grew. As I thought about his notions of men holding onto their bitterness and resentment and sitting in their castles, defending themselves from the encroachment of any, including potential mates, the thing grew stronger. In time, it became audible and then pronounced. I reread the particular statements about a man being in control and that being sexy, I am paraphrasing and adding my own interpretations which expand things a bit, but... And finally, it gurgled out into full blown laughter.

Men will be grumpy until we die. We, those who have dropped their set, will resent women whether we are married to them or not, whether we can find a wife, lover, girlfriend, or not. We are what we are. And beyond, marriage is not some twisted up love ball of two people in one, merely two people with (at best) similar goals to help each other forge those things. If there can be that oneness of spirit, it is a thing not of flesh. And, marriage is a bit of a tussle between two people, one man and one woman facing off, often, in opposition to each other.

Like the relationship between the feds and the state, the state and the city, government and free men, and even God and man, there is a natural antagonism which must always exist between man and wife, woman and man, and the roles each plays. Each has a role, and these roles even when (or perhaps more so when) played correctly must oppose one another. As for my bitterness, I will cling to that (along with my bible an guns)!

Now, I am not exactly a hill goat, hiding from the world and casting arrows blindly. If that has been known to happen, it certainly is not all that I am. And, I do not laugh at all he has to say in a (completely) serious way, I merely note that the view is rather simplistic. A thing necessary when making points, albeit. But I did laugh, and gurgle, and grin, and laugh some more. The problem is not with men, at all, for the vast majority. Men do not divorce, essentially. Nor do we have any means of holding a family together nor trusting a woman or the law. So, grumble we will, change we will not. Should he find himself in divorce court, God forbid, we will discuss this further.

Men are, after all, just men. And I am a man. And, it is a gas. *laughs* Independent? Of course. Grumpy, Lord knows I hope so. Grumpy gives me go gas and gets things done. To include dealing with fussy weird cat women. *laughs*