Advice for women.

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Shut up.  No, I don't mean never speak.  I mean be quiet when your man brings you a notion.  Watch.  Do you want to be useful, helpful, a source of pride beyond your beauty or fertility?  Then be quiet at first.  Now, listen.  Set your emotions aside.  Think.  Get a good grip on what your man is saying and planning.  Think it over.  Once again, keep your emotions out of the matter, we probably already have a good idea how you feel and likely don't give a shit because that will change in two seconds and is as likely to be as foolish as it is beyond our means.  We do have our own feelings too, you know?  Look up the details on your own.  Compare, contrast, research, and calculate while aiming at his, and your, goals and within the defined means of time, energy, and available technology.  Then, when he is in a contemplative mood, but not exhausted either, bring the subject up if he doesn't bring it to you first.

I have met a few very sage women, age isn't always a factor.  Most of the time they do not speak on a topic.  They realize, from a short discussion, that they probably don't know enough information from which to offer advise.  Although there have been a few women who were able to just see the problem and offer advise, usually quite timidly.  The last bit of advice I took whole hog, if the cost is a bit of a trouble the end results will justify the price as I plainly see things.  When they feel they have enough information, then they may speak, usually only if asked.  Bringing up a point of contention is not how to open someone up to receiving even solid wisdom.  They have to seek it, or be obviously frustrated and ready to try something else at times.  I have been well pleased to have accepted such wisdom.  Sometimes I have ignored it, save as a last ditch effort, if just as often to my regret in that I wasted time trying to do it my way.  Teach your man that you are truly wise and he will learn to listen to you.  Do you simply wish to speak, pronounce your emotions, spout your opinions, or do you truly wish to be valued as a woman to be heard?  The choice is yours.  Princess or queen.  I know, should I seek a wife, how she responds will determine her value, thus placement, in the queue.

If you want to own your man, surrender to him completely.  Contest him when you want him to pretty much leave you alone, or gently when it is a special issue.  Home is where we hope to avoid confrontations.  If you seek equality you seek it alone and foolishly.  For you are not and never will be equal.  While all men were created equal, that was it.  They did not grow up to be equals, and are only theoretically equal in a court of law (and we all know how well that turns out in truth when a rich or powerful man is even held to the law in even the better of nations).  So, lets not quibble about insulting notions.  You are not a man.  And you should be grateful, quite often, so long as you understand that being the wife of a man, and the mother of men, is the greater part of inequality.  Do it rightly and only fools will disregard you, as both the foolish and wise rightly do with most women these days.

It all starts with wisdom, and wisdom doesn't come from you.  Find it's source, become it's conduit, and you will never have need.  Wants?  What source on earth, hell, or heaven, could possibly feed your wants?  And... why should anyone, if you don't choose well to begin the thing?  So many have confused want and need that it is difficult to even begin with so many women.  Thankfully, such is not required, completely, at the beginning.  So long as she has a constant diet of wisdom from which to begin and a seed of wisdom that has been planted in her?  Something like that.

Men are men.  Contest us to your hearts content, it will either break the weak or strengthen the strong against you.  A broken man is useless to you.  Even the more foolish of women know this, if that is part of their point.  Creating a broken man increases their victimhood status in a negative cycle of self-destruction, the natural cycle of women without a man, without borders, without a place.  The strong among us will simply become completely dismissive of a strong contention without the strength to force the issue.  It is our way, our nature.  Choose, you have the capacity.  You can't choose everything, you get this or that, not both, always.  Choose... wisely.

It doesn't even have to be a choice between these things.  Just understand, we don't understand you any more than you understand us.  Be proud to be a woman, just don't think that means a thing by itself. And we are competitive, so don't go pushing the theme.  The less you play that piano, the more we will.  Odd how things work out.




If you aren't being heard?  Shut up.  Men do it every day, quite frequently, when speaking with almost anybody but more frequently when "speaking" with women.  If you want to try to prove you are equal, try it.

Good day.