Are you a liar?

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And, before you ask, yes. I am. It is a rare thing, to my mind, for me to lie. But sometimes I cover for my weakness, illness, by lying. Sometimes I lie because to tell the whole story is more than I wish to share. These lies are pretty much kept to associates, people I don't know extremely well. My family and friends get both barrels. I consider social lying as a form of diplomacy, and only to be used to change a subject or decline an offer, and rarely at that. I have, for the most part, and to my understanding of things, written as close to the truth here as I am able. And still, some of it is not true. Offering several versions of how I see, sense, remember things here, in which the versions can be only one being true the other false, I have lied. For my part, on some things, I have great confusion. In short, I don't always know the truth. I would guess my truth is that I give you what I believe at a particular moment, so it is my beliefs that are false. And that I give you all of what I believe, even if only one of two options can be true. I have no choice, it was how I was built, I think.

Here is an interesting video on the topic. Stolen, directly, from Ace of Spades HQ (somewhere there).


For my part, I don't believe you. It is just the way I am. I will, for the sake of argument, believe that you believe you. Should you fail in this regard, and I come to find out you don't even believe you, depending on the situation, I may set you aside, set you aside on some things, or understand you have a particular weakness. If, in time, I come to believe both that you believe you and that you speak truth in real terms, then I will honor you, befriend you (even if it pains me). But, as I said, default is disbelief with a charity of allowance. I can't say I am good at telling when I am being lied to though. The truth, usually, does come out. And, basically, with my philosophy noted above, for the most part, it simply doesn't matter. Actually, when I meet people, I think the reason, save for blacks, that I get a good reception, is that people believe me. Which is why I would, could, never go into sales, politics, or some other things. Never mind, just, for my own conscience, I couldn't, wouldn't, do that. (And yet I understand the need for such people. Hush!)

And I agree with the video. Lying is usually an agreed state between two people, save when it isn't. Usually it is though. Most people aren't con men. Every woman I have ever been with has lied, to save peace in the relationship or get tasks done or even just because a bit (save one, but she still lied, though more because she was lost and her reasoning was beyond weak). My mother, while visiting and all through my life, has lied. White lies, and some black lies, from most people. Which is anathema to me, especially from people who are close to me or seek to be. As someone who has struggled with truth, about my confused past, it is like quitting smoking only to find yourself among smokers. It is more than annoying, it is potentially intoxicating. The best liars are the unknowing liars, by the way. If I were to formulate a lie, I would find someone ignorant and pliable, teach them the lie as truth, and send them to whoever it is I wished to tell the lie to as if they were the originator of the "truth". The best lie is the one that is told by the one who believes it.

I should also add that being truthful, to elites, is proof of... being a peasant. From professors to doctors to politicians, lying isn't just an art, it's a science and a means of providing bona fides to their eliteness. More so if they can get the 'peasant' to not only believe, but act on, the falsity of the lie. Al Gore must be having a wonderful time, as did Clinton when he was president. Zero must be enjoying living out his fantasy, if the loss of the House sort of ended his deceptive enactments to a degree. "The peasants are demanding food, your highness, food we cannot provide"! his Highness, "Just tell them food will be arriving in three days, a week tops". "But sire, there is no food". His highness, "There need not be any food, it will simply scatter the crowd for now. After which, you find the leaders and... bring them to me". It hasn't always been just about... elite bona fides. It still isn't, and has a very dark side.

The whole notion reminds me of a old joke. Angie was getting ready for the second date with her new boyfriend. Her brother, who had never been on a second date, let alone a first one, asked Angie how she gets to the second date. Angie just suggests that herself and her date had lied well enough on the first date for a second try! Yeah, okay, old jokes were a bit quaint in these modern times. But I still... enjoyed the honesty surrounding lies and liars and relationships. The truth about lies? How... novel, avant garde... passe? Who knows and never you mind anywhile.

Never mind. I enjoyed the video and the notions and thought to share it on this sunny day. It's sunny where I live and I am enjoying it. If it's not sunny were you live? Sad to be you! No lie. :p